Oh brother, here is the status.
1. I finally got PO'd enought to get another IB switch, a flextronics 8 port. THIS one gives me link lights...so that's one issue gone.
2. My replacement connectx card gets no linklight in a vmware server, but does get a linklight under a linux machine, but it doesn't find the subnet manager that the other machines find.
3. I cannot get ibping to work at all, cannot ping any GUIDS
4. I would like to update switch but mst status doesn't see it, but ibswitches does, so I can't update it through the infiniband fabric.
5. Cannot make any headway with windows IPoIB..(I know you don't know windows)
6. How do I map drives?